The relationship you have with your therapist is important. After all, if you want to work on things you find difficult or painful, it really helps to feel supported, accepted and understood. And maybe you have other particular things you'd like in your choice of therapist too.
For many people, especially those of us who have a history of complex trauma, relationships can be daunting or frightening. I'm always aware, when meeting someone for the first time, what a significant step that first conversation or session can be.
I came across this brilliant blog post about questions to ask when you're looking for a therapist to work with you around complex trauma. It is written by Lilly Hope Lucario, a survivor of complex trauma and writer, blogger and campaigner. It provides some great ideas about what you might want to know when you're talking to someone you're considering working with in therapy. You can find her blog over on Wordpress.
When I speak to people who are looking for a therapist, many don't know what to ask, yet have a feeling of wanting to find out more. I hope you find the questions in Lilly's blog useful. I think it could be a great place to start. Don't forget, too, that how you feel with the person on the other end of the phone or sitting opposite you is often a good indication too.
I offer a 30 minute phone call free of charge to any one who is wondering what it might be like to work with me, or even if you aren't sure yet if therapy is right for you at this point. Please do get in touch if you think this might be helpful for you.
Good luck in your search!